Co-parenting After a Divorce

Divorce can be a difficult process for many spouses; however, the children of the family also experience the full range of emotions associated with divorce. While a judge will assign a parenting plan for the divorced couple, the ideal situation for the children is for parents to learn to successfully co-parent after the divorce is finalized.

What is co-parenting?

The circumstances of your marriage may have led you to seek a divorce; however, this does not mean that you will be unable to continue being a good parent to your children after the divorce proceedings have ended. Most divorced couples decide to remain amicable for the sake of their children. Co-parenting occurs when the two divorced parents are able to put aside their differences to focus on the loving upbringing of their children.

Why is Successful Co-parenting Important?

Divorce can have many effects on the lives of children. They may experience increased stress and anxiety during and after the divorce. Successful co-parenting can ease this anxiety by allowing the child to benefit from the presence of both parents in his or her life.

Children whose parents are able to successfully co-parent are able to adapt more easily to the divorce and are less likely to suffer from the long-term negative effects of divorce. Children follow the examples of their parents, so parents who work together even after a divorce teach their children to amicably solve their problems. These children also benefit from a greater sense of security.

Tips for Co-parenting

It is important to explain your co-parenting plan with your children so that they understand your motives for cooperating with your ex-spouse. This helps a child understand that your decision to co-parent does not signal any kind of reconciliation, but is, instead, a way for both parents to remain active in the life of the child.

When Co-parenting Isn’t an Option

In some situations, co-parenting is not advised. Situations involving child abuse, domestic violence, a parent with mental illnesses, or a parent with substance abuse problems do not foster an environment for successful co-parenting. Also, ex-spouses who are unable to move past their anger or emotions should not attempt co-parenting, as this only makes problems worse.

For more information about co-parenting and other child custody issues, contact the Austin divorce lawyers of Slater, Kennon & Pugh Ltd.LLP at 512-472-2431.